You Could Be The Reason Women Choose To Be Single

Why fault women for being single in their advanced years when you are what is in the dating pool?

Things change a lot and sometimes we do not want to change or maybe we do not understand it and what to do with ourselves, about it—the change. Keep up.

If you are a woman, you have probably heard (all your life) that the worst thing that can happen to you is to be unmarried. Apparently, being alone in your advanced years is at the top of the list with burning with the devil in that illusionary place. Because of this myth, very many men will try to shame women into relationships. If you have been in matrimony before, some of these shaming tactics are laughable because many marriages are sources of embarrassment. As such, many women are increasingly not interested in conventional relationships. Having a man to yourself is no longer a sign of high self-worth or esteem because the lengths women go to secure a man to themselves are far more degrading as opposed to the often shunned secular unions where a woman can decide on terms of engagement.

So I want to shine a light on what can otherwise be uncharted terrain for those of you who think the best way to get a woman into a relationship is through shame. Consider for a moment that you might be standing in your way. There are things that your last-century brain may perceive as a plus but might be keeping women away from you. So instead of stooping to shaming women and calling it masculinity, have a little think.

You have never been married before. I know many men think this makes you a prized bull. It does if you are under thirty-five. There is a compassion that comes with the responsibility of having a family and a maturity gained from having been married even for a short time. 

You have no children. I know the heart wants what it wants, but it is not always practical. If the woman you want has children and you do not, she may feel you are getting the short end of the stick. Also, children are a blessing, but they are not a walk in the park and sometimes only a person who has had some would understand that you do not throw them out of a window even if they have worked all your nerves.

She has children. You mentioned that your last girlfriend was 21. You are in your 40s or 50s. If you have ever had a pet (dog or cat) and keep other animals for food, say chicken or rabbits, It is advised that you refrain from feeding the pet raw meat, as it can lead to them developing a taste for blood and potentially preying on your chickens. And so it is with a man who has a taste for children. He will devour the babies.

You are single. Not every woman wants the responsibility of a whole man. A story is told of a woman who would offer to pay her partner’s friends to take him out, even to a strip club. Yes, there is the ‘my husband, my man’ club, but there are also those who want a relationship that does not involve waking up, sitting with someone all day and retiring to bed with them, 365 days a year. So maybe we should retire the ‘He will never leave her for you’ slogan. Because the day he leaves her, she leaves him. 

Your friend(s). They are a better option. I read a meme that said that; you should check out a man's friends before settling for him. Your friends might be her type. Or she has checked them out and seen how badly they behave and birds that hang out have the same feathers. Before you think she is playing hard to get yet she is ‘old’, your buddies may be cock blocking you.

Social media. How you present yourself tells a story that may be making you undesirable. You are on these apps bickering with female influencers like you are co-wives. Or you are part of the brigade who hate women and are constantly tagging and forwarding the ‘Old women should settle’ videos and you are wondering why you are being blue-ticked by these old women who should be lowering their standards to hell to give you a chance. Or maybe you refer to yourself as Hon, Diplomat, Mhesh and you are not. It gives delulu.

You are too young; she does not want to be a mother; you are too old; she does not want to be a nurse.

You are loose. Rarely are you in a steady relationship. You have a reputation for being all-inclusive. It sends out bad vibes; you do not know what to do to keep a woman, your skills are not the best, so no one stays long and you must pick a lot of demons and viruses that you love to share.

The issue may not be impossible standards. What is available ‘in the market’ poses problems that mature women may not be bothered to be saddled with. There are more important issues in life, like the pursuit of enjoyment.

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